Today’s post was inspired by a text conversation I was having with a friend. She recently met a man and fell in love. (Ooooh, fireworks!!)
However, she started to downplay her feelings and internal instinct because she was worried she was “rushing into things”. I asked her WHY she’s worried about the speed of her new romance.
After a short moment of “the text dots aren’t moving” silence, I brought up the point that we often make choices based on the messages and advice of others, and asked whose voice she heard when she said she might be “rushing into things”.
Her answer…. “my mom”.
If you think about it, society (and usually parents) warn us to not rush into romantic relationships. Can you hear it?
- Take it slow!
- Just be careful!
- Don’t rush into things!
- You don’t want to scare him (or her) off!
From a logical standpoint, you can understand where this “teaching“ comes from.
People get hurt, they get pissed, and then they start to warn everybody about the dangers of their experiences.
Additionally, from a soul‘s journey / historical perspective, it wasn’t too long ago that people didn’t have much choice in selecting their romantic partner as it was arranged for them.
So in the eyes of parents who made an awesome deal to marry their daughter off to a man who had land AND six cows (wow!), falling in love can be a dangerous prospect, especially if the love isn’t directed toward the “right” man.
Therefore, you don’t fall in love. That = bad news.
Long story short, this conversation is a perfect example of how we make choices based on what we think we “should” be doing.
And when you make choices based on the fears and expectations of others, you aren’t listening to yourself, nor are you making choices that will bring YOU joy and abundance.
One thing that my soul reading work has taught me is that there are a shit-ton of invisible barriers in the form of sayings, catch-phrases, and idioms that people generally buy into.
Don’t worry, this is normal. You can’t avoid it. Your ancient brain is wired that way and you don’t even know that they are doing it.
Unfortunately though, when you aren’t AWARE of the conflicting beliefs that are guiding your choices, then you are blindly acting on them which means you don’t really create the circumstances you want in your life.
I always say, AWARENESS IS KEY, because then you can actually DO something about it.
So the question is, are you OK buying into it all… hook, line, and sinker?
Or do you desire to live life on your own terms?
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