I was watching a movie the other day that triggered the travel bug in me. (I seem to be on a bit of a movie kick recently.)
When I travel, it gives me food for fodder. I find it sparks my creativity as there are many moments of soul-wisdom just awaiting for me when I embark on the the unknown.
As a matter of fact, the husband and I have plans to spend 6 months here in the US and 6 months overseas somewhere, choosing a different area each year.
That’s a pretty big decision!
And with any big decision there are real logistics to consider.
However, we also have the incredible ability to overcomplicate things and instantly talk ourselves out of something possible, even if it’s 100% soul-aligned.
In our chatter about 6 months here and there, a couple REAL issues do exist:
1. The husband has a 14 year old son and splits time with his ex. Being out of the country makes visitations difficult (both as an expense but also legally) until his son turns 18.
2. I have an 85 year old father that I am caring for. The truth is, being away for a great deal of time right now would actually add stress to my life as it would make tending to his needs very difficult.
Here are a couple issues that we could totally overwhelm ourselves with, and poo-poo the whole idea, if we let it:
1. We have 3 cats. What do we do with them? Take them with us? Look for a trusted love one to care for them while we are gone?
Traveling with cats would be interesting. It would be an added expense. Mr. Babbles will be pissed at us and poop on the floor for a couple months.
2. What do we do with the condo? Rent it out? Let it be vacant for 6 months? Sell EVERYTHING and just rent something short-term when we come back?
OMG, buying, selling, storing…. what’s the “right” thing to do? #overwhelm
OMG, what if we sell and want to immediately come back? #fear
OMG, what if I miss my stuff? And what about those things that we really don’t want to sell? #really??
I am using a rather large example here to make my point, but most people totally over-complicate simpler change too.
I am amazed at how many complementary calls I have with biz owners who KNOW they’ve hit a plateau and who KNOW they are wasting time and money by guessing, tweaking, and trying to figure it out on their own, yet they come up with a gazillion reasons why they “can’t” invest in a business analysis right now.
The tendency is to over-complicate things and start talking themselves out of the decision on hand.
Even if the issue is money (the most popular objection), the decision is simple… find the money in order to fix what’s not working and move on, or not.
A REAL logistical problem is when you have no credit cards, are living paycheck to paycheck, and are already behind on your car payments.
An OVER-COMPLICATED issue is berating yourself because you already invested $10K on a business coach and are still paying THAT off on your credit card, and then deciding that you would be irresponsible for investing further… even if it meant you could move forward and USE your biz coach in a new, more productive way.
So you decide to think about it, of which you do, every day, because you are still perched on your plateau.
My goal isn’t to harp on the money thing, it’s just a really good and common example.
For you, you may be over-complicating self-care, spending time with your kids, or deciding to buy a new home.
Whatever it is, STOP IT, and start making the decision simple.