I got stuck, going the wrong way, on the circle of death. It was night time, raining, and there was a lot of glare from car headlights. I came across one of those round-about traffic things of which I swear was put on this earth to reinforce that maybe I should just move to a big city, ditch the car altogether, and take the subway everywhere.
Not only did the roundy-round have several different exit options, but it also had 2 lanes. What this means is that once you are stuck in the inner loop, you are committed to about 3 rotations before you can make your way to an other lane to get the hell off! As a kick-ass bonus, this particular round-about had one-way exits, hence, to my dismay, I exited the wrong way and found myself facing a car headed in my direction. Where is a ‘do not enter’ sign when I need it? Nada.
Fortunately, the universe helped me and my car out of my predicament safely (note to self…put in gratitude journal), and without police intervention which would just reinforce the obvious – “yes officer, I am keenly aware I just committed a gazillion traffic violations”.
Fear took over and drove me to my final destination, at about 40 miles per hour. In some cases, fear is warranted and totally needed.
Most times, though, fear comes from chicken mind chatter. Be safe, don’t go there, run the other way, you might fail! It is our primitive voice that finds comfort in status quo. But status quo can be boring, dissatisfying, and in many cases totally unhealthy and dysfunctional. Fear leads to procrastination, unfinished projects, stuck relationships, and dissatisfying choices.
So how do you not let fear take over?
Respect and acknowledge fear. It is there for a reason. But ask yourself the following questions:
1. Am I in real danger? (If yes, get out of there!)
2. Will someone be physically, emotionally, or mentally harmed in this situation? (If yes, don’t do it!)
3. Am I letting fear hold me back from…making a career change, venturing back into the dating world, finishing such and such project, etc.? (If yes, time to do some reflection and have a frank conversation with fear.)
Remember, fear is only a feeling, and it cannot hold you back! (One of my favorite mantras!)
Fear was getting the better of me when I put my first ebook on Amazon. (Click here to see my book.) What if people don’t like it? What if someone writes a negative comment? In this case, fear definitely was pushing to make it better, drag it out some more, just wait. If I listened, I would have never finished the document.
I read somewhere (shame on me for not remembering to give credit) that 30% of the people out there will love and appreciate what you have to offer, 30% may or may not care what you do, 30% will find something wrong with you and let you know loud and clear, and the other 10%, well, according to this source, I am not sure what they are doing. However, I am going to guess that they are too busy stocking their underground bunker with food in case of nuclear war to bother with anyone’s business. Needless to say, focusing on the 60% that would either want to join my tribe or benefit from the information that I shared makes it a lot easier to put fear on the back burner and take action.
Have a chat with your own fear this week? What is it holding you back from?
I would love to hear from you! In the comments below tell me:
What are you going to accomplish this week despite an unwelcome visit from fear?