Do you really attract ALL of your circumstances?
“They” say things happen in threes.
In a matter of two months I’ve experienced the loss of my mother, the loss of a dear friend‘s father, and now the loss of my purse and personal belongings when some thug broke into my car over Memorial Day weekend, popped the trunk, and stole the contents while I was in yoga class.
(Hopefully these “threes” have passed.)
It’s funny because whenever I experience something difficult I think it’s the worst thing ever. Until something else comes along.
And while I know some situations are of a higher degree than others (I can replace my drivers license and credit cards, but I can’t replace my mother), there’s still a sense of loss for each one.
I did spend a day having a poo-poo party for myself because I have the right to be emotionally sad, pissed off, and resentful. It’s hard to not feel punished, or wonder why awful things happen to good people after such an occurrence.
It got me thinking how there are people out there in spiritual communities who teach that we attract EVERY single circumstance that happens to us. Do I believe that? Sort-of.
I believe that when I take soul-aligned action toward things within my control then joy and success follows.
I believe that my thoughts are very powerful and I can CHOOSE them to match the outcomes I desire.
But can I control other people? The choice THEY made to engage in criminal activity and bash in car windows on the street where I happened to park? Not really.
Now just a karmic disclaimer here… If this was a fairly regular occurrence for me, my car getting broken into, then I would DEFINITELY check into whatever past-life karmic ju-ju I am perpetuating.
After my day of grieving and operating from a place of “look at what happened TO me”, I took some time to reflect on what new understanding I can gain from this. How I can shift MY thinking and perception because in essence, I DO have control over that.
With a lot of loss, comes time to reflect on what’s most important. It’s caused me to take a closer look at my life and business, and see where I’ve been making choices out of “should’s” or what others expect from me.
I reflected on how much shit that I don’t need that I actually carry around in my purse, and decided that I can simplify and not carry so much baggage around (literally and metaphorically).
I reflected on the importance of stuff in general, and ironically, it has LESSENED my worry because while a pain-in-the-ass and a financial expense, I can replace everything that was taken.
The world didn’t end. I still get to experience the joy of life and run my business. And I am still surrounded by the people that matter.
But all the stuff that is in my house is just that, stuff. All the stuff that was in my car trunk was just stuff. And even though the little keepsakes I had in my wallet are gone, it doesn’t take away those memories.
I am grateful that I have the confidence of knowing who I am at soul-level. I am grateful that I have the tools to help me process my feelings more effectively. I am grateful for access to the Records to check for energetic ties that might be contributing to my experiences.
Without these things I know I would still be struggling to make sense of it all. I would still be stuck in feelings of victimization rather than the resolve I feel now.
Did I choose to be robbed? Am I aligning right now with a bunch of “loss” energy that is attracting more loss? Maybe. It wouldn’t surprise me.
All I know is that everything will be okay, attracted or not.