Even if you are solid in your work, it is still NORMAL to doubt yourself. There are days that I get off the phone with a client, and even though I feel it was an accomplished session or an informative reading, I wonder whether I am actually an effective coach.
Here are some examples of what pops through my monkey mind…
- Am I really providing a valuable service?
- Do I charge too much?
- Are my clients really getting something from this?
- Am I a fraud because I have my own struggles?
This whole idea rings true even if you aren’t an entrepreneur but are dealing with more personal life issues. Am I good enough for her/him? Am I a crappy mother because I am so tired after work and don’t have the energy to play?
This is all very normal. It provides a basis for you to self-evaluate, and weigh in on your choices, thoughts, and feelings. If you process best from an internal perspective, you will find yourself journaling or having a debate between your soul voice and your ego. If you process best from an external standpoint, you will reflect on what beliefs about yourself to keep and what to discard based on what you see other people doing.
Self-doubt only becomes an issue when you are NOT clear about what you want, what you do best, or what you have to offer to the world. It actually starts as CONFUSION, and then shifts into questioning your abilities and self-worth.
Think about it…You think you want to be a health coach because good nutrition is of interest to you. After a couple clients you realize that you don’t really want to do meal planning. Or it bores you to plunder through test results. Or you set up shop, do the marketing work, but get crickets.
Then you think to yourself…
- Did I really choose the right coaching niche? Because I am not loving this work.
- Do I suck at marketing? Is that why I am not getting clients?
- Maybe I am supposed to be focusing on weight loss client?
- If I am not doing health coaching, WTF am I supposed to be doing??
Pretty soon you are filled with self-doubt about EVERYTHING, are even questioning your self-WORTH, and fall into a pattern of procrastination and signing up for a gazillion courses to help you learn sales skills.
This kind of self-doubt is truly detrimental. It will lead you down a path of wasting time, energy, and money trying to find the magic answers from someone or something else. But let me tell you… THE ANSWER IS WITHIN YOU!!
Who you are at soul level determines your purpose in the world, your gifts, and how you best operate. It gives you a level of confidence that cannot be “taken away” by what others think or tell you what you “should” be doing. When you align to yourself at soul level, the magic happens. You start dumping the toxic relationships in your life. You align your business to your soul gifts so things start to flow and the right clients are attracted to you. You learn too about who your kids are at soul level, so the quality time you do spend with them fills their love bucket.
Even though my monkey mind gives me bouts of self-doubt every day, I recognize those thoughts for what they truly are. I use them as a tool to check in with myself, and then move on. I can do this with ease because I am SOLID and CONFIDENT in who I am and what I have to offer to the world. No floundering negative thoughts will EVER take this away.
So if you find yourself periodically doubting yourself, honor it, and use it to evaluate whether or not your actions are in alignment with your divine nature. If you are unsure about who you are at soul level and want to find this level of confidence for yourself, contact me!