This past week I have been feeling anything but joy.
It's more of a dull, flat feeling. I am actually OK with this as I don't have the expectation that I will feel connected, inspired, and happy all the time.
Believing that you always need to think and feel positive is unrealistic, but messages from the spiritual community often suggest that by not following the laws of attraction 100% of the time you will fuck up your future success.
The thing is, it is unrealistic to think that we can push aside the negative feelings and simply be OK. We are human, and ALL emotions are part of the human experience. We aren't given “feelings” as punishment by the Divine. As a matter of fact, they are a blessing as they allow us to grow.
Think about it, if we only felt joy, how would we even know it's a “good” thing?
We need to understand what the opposite feels like in order to appreciate the positive. Every feeling, thought, and energy has an opposite polarity, just like the ends of a battery. Batteries don't work so well without a positive and negative.
In today's video I talk a bit about my experience and how to shift out of it. If you aren't the video-kind, though, here's an abbreviated version...
1. Know where your feelings are coming from.
Life happens. You might be dealing with a difficult situation. Or maybe you are experiencing egoic resistance. This happens sometimes when I set out to write another chapter in my book; I tell myself, “I don't feel like it”.
When I do soul clearing work for people, it sometimes triggers fear, loss, or numbness. This is because we often use our dysfunction as a crutch. And when it is no longer there (which is a good thing for sure) there is a somber understanding that we have to make different choices.
Ultimately, change can be scary, even though you know deep down following your spirit will reap HUGE rewards.
2. Continue taking healthy, steady action.
This may look like writing anyway, even if you don't feel like it. Or allow yourself to move through your day even if you are not particularly enjoying it.
Meditate, and notice where these feelings are surfacing in your body. Visualize them moving through you. Pull some card and journal on it. This was my go-to this morning.
Maybe do something different, a new course of action. Get your nails done, take a bath, or go to a park and watch the people go by.
3. Give yourself permission to feel shitty.
Make peace with it.