It seems easier to pretend. And I am not talking about the kind of pretend that your four-year-old is enjoying as she (or he) is prancing around, in his/her very best sparkly “king/queen” of the world outfit, being master of his/her own universe.
I am talking about the “pretend it doesn’t exist” game.
Here are some of the ways I pretended over the last couple of decades:
- I pretended that a pill would fix my health issues. Because face it, the thought of doing a dietary and lifestyle overhaul was very overwhelming. I mean really, what WOULD I eat if I have to give up bread?
- I pretended that what other people thought didn’t matter. When in reality it did because I was SUCH a people pleaser. I thought that pleasing others would make me happy in return.
- I pretended that my own intuition wasn’t as important or valid as my logical brain.
So why do we pretend? Why do we bury our head in the sand?
Because we think it is easy.
But here is the reality…
- A pill just swept the dirt under the rug and masked my symptoms. I was still sick on the inside. Pretending doesn’t change the facts.
- It was harder to stress over the THOUGHT of everything I could’t have than to focus on and prepare what I could have. I also just picked ONE thing to eliminate and started there. Things aren’t overwhelming if you break them down one piece or small step at a time.
- Trying to please others just elicits frustration and increased self-doubt. Happiness comes from within, and no person, thing, food, or drug will get it for you.
- Ignoring my intuition impacted my relationships, career, confidence, and self-worth, and not in the good kind of way. Intuition is connected to your soul voice. When you stop listening to this, then your energies are focused elsewhere, and usually not on the things you really want. Then years go by, and you wonder what the heck happened.
Pretending may seem easier than dealing with the issue, especially if you are trying to avoid the fallout of some kind or trauma or difficult life event. But in the long run, all you get is increased complications. You get sicker, more doubtful of your capabilities, increasingly unhappy, and feel totally disconnected from yourself.
If you find yourself “pretending”, maybe it is a good time to stop, take a good look at the issue, and start small. Pick ONE thing to change. Just one. And focus on that. Do something about it, and then see how you feel.
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