People spend a lot of time “hoping”.
- They hope things will get better at work.
- They hope that the kids will do their homework without an argument tonight.
- They hope that they will fall in love this year.
- They hope they will find the money to repair the roof.
- They hope that their anxiety will go away.
But hoping in this way just gives you permission to do nothing.
I LOVE what Jim Carrey said about hope in his commencement speech: “Hope is a beggar.”
That says it all.
When you hope, you are begging for some external force to save you. Sure, it might motivate you momentarily, or provide a bit of light during a really dark time in your life.
But if you think about TRANSFORMATION, actually getting the things you want, hope really does nothing for you.
For a long time I hoped that:
- I would feel better.
- My anxiety would magically go away.
- Whatever was causing my skin rashes and breakouts would fix itself.
- I could quit my 9-5 and work for myself.
- I could have a bigger house.
But for this long period of time, I never got what I wanted because I was stuck “hoping”.
Hope doesn’t create change because…
- It doesn’t foster commitment.
- It doesn’t trigger action that is ultimately needed for change.
- It doesn’t last. (I mean really, there’s only so much hoping you can do before you get tired of it because nothing is different.)
- It prevents YOU from taking charge of your life.
I was only able to feel better, ditch the anxiety, and quit my 9-5 once I started taking responsibility for my life. (The bigger house? Well, by the time I got around to that I wanted to downsize more than anything.)
I did A LOT of mindset work.
I dug up and addressed the ROOT cause of WHY I was experiencing my struggles.
I took action and started making adjustments, both big and small.
I stopped hoping and decided that I was committed to doing what needs to be done to feel better, be happy, and enjoy my life.
What about you? What are you “hoping” for but not getting?
Is it time to do something different?