We all do it. We say we want to do something, but then 5 years go by and we still haven’t done whatever it is we set out to do. I (Lore) am not talking about the household chores that get put off for another week, but the big life decisions that really make an impact.
So why exactly do you procrastinate on and put of the things you really, really want?
These are the usual top 3 reasons:
1. You don’t really, really want whatever you say you do. Sometimes a want is just something that sounds great, but when you really think about it, you are caught up in the “grass is greener on the other side” syndrome.
That big job promotion might come with a higher paycheck, but also longer hours, more responsibility, and another couple years trapped in the corporate world. The desire to move to California to surf the waves sounds great except that you can only afford to live in a 250 square foot efficiency….if you get a roommate, that is.
Some times “wants” are really just great dreams that are meant to stay in dreamland. And that is totally ok as dreaming is healthy and good for reducing stress.
I really, really wanted to not take pills anymore, to fix my health, and to clear up my skin. These were my desires, my motivators, and I felt it all the way down into my core. Therefore, I took action and still until this day, am 100% committed to my new lifestyle. No procrastination here.
2. You have roadblocks, usually ingrained childhood messages along with other skewed perceptions adopted along the road of life, that are standing in the way of you taking action. I know this firsthand. When I decided to work for myself, I had (and still have in some sense) blocks regarding money, charging what I’m worth, and what defines “hard work”.
My parents were self employed, and they would often tell me to work for someone else, because self employment is too unpredictable, you don’t always make money. However, back then, there was some sense of job security, corporate loyalty, and guaranteed retirement. Now, most employees are as dispensable as toilet paper.
The same EFT (or “tapping”) technique I use with my clients to move past blocks, I also use with myself. It has made a HUGE difference in my action-taking, including networking, setting pricing for services, and being confident in pursuing my dream.
3. You aren’t making your goals actionable and putting them into your daily routine as non-negotiable. A goal that states “I want to lose weight” is not really an actionable goal. It is merely a wish, a want. On the contrary, to say you want to lose 3 pounds in 2 weeks by exercising 3 times a week, is actionable and measurable. Then you put your 3 days of exercise in your calendar and just do it. No negotiating, no excuses, it is on your calendar and is non-negotiable.
This is why I use Nozbe, a time management system. I put in what I need done and when, and then just follow what it spits out for me to do. This way I also don’t miss important deadlines and can keep a consistent schedule. Half the time I wouldn’t remember to draft my blog posts if I didn’t have a recurring reminder in Nozbe.
I see all 3 procrastination scenarios in my coaching practice, which leads to one gargantuan procrastination party. My clients identify goals that they think they want, but on further discovery, their goals are just the goals of their mother, father, a mentor, or ones they think they are “supposed to” achieve versus what they really want for themselves. When your goal isn’t your goal, your subconscious knows it. Identify YOUR wants!
Then, once we finally figure out what you want and goals are set, there are usually a bunch of blocks that sabotage forward movement and taking action. These blocks also live in your subconscious, which is why you wonder why you can’t take action when you have a burning desire to do whatever it is.
Subconscious blocks are meant to protect, keep you safe, but they don’t distinguish between getting chased by a rabid lion and dating again after a nasty divorce, which may be out of your comfort zone, but in no way deadly. Tackle your subconscious blocks!
Finally, when the desire is identified, and blocks are eliminated, then there is no organizational method to taking action. Making a list on a sheet of paper is often overlooked or lost. It is too easy to put off until “later”. This is why a system, versus a To Do list, is more effective when it comes to getting what you really want. With a system, your actionables are part of your routine, already built into your day. Get a system!
What can you do today to start taking action?
Are you tired of putting off what you really, really want? Are you tired of talking about it, feeling it deep down, but then doing nothing about it?
Contact me, and let’s get to the bottom of it!